When we think of domestic violence, we typically think of men abusing women, but that is not always the case. Male victims of abuse can be caused at the hands of his female, or male, partner.
The five most common signs of domestic violence include:
Like women, men often feel ashamed, frightened, guilty, or confused, but one of the most difficult realities that male victims often encounter is defining the abuse as abuse. Our society has shaped the way we perceive men: strong, dominant, men don’t cry. Being vulnerable is highly looked down upon and a man should not be battered or abused by a woman because he can overpower [her].
It’s unfortunate that masculinity, or manhood, comes into question when the male victim doesn’t defend himself against his female abuser; not only has our society taught us to criticize a male victim for being a victim, but if a male victim is being attacked, he is ostracized (and often put in jail) for defending himself against a female perpetrator.
There are a myriad of reasons why a male victim does not leave the abusive relationship:
Domestic violence does not recognize gender; it can happen to anyone.
You are not alone.
You are loved. You are worthy.
Abuse, regardless of gender, should not be ignored!