Domestic violence, or battering, is a pattern of abusive behaviors that some individuals use to CONTROL their intimate partner. Domestic violence is any type of violence:
If you’re unsure about the cycle of domestic violence, you’re not alone; early signs are almost undetectable: throwing a pillow, slamming objects, or degrading remarks/tasks where an individual is asserting his or her power over another – this is known as the tension building stage.
Inevitably, those actions progress to a violent episode: a slap, tossing [you] to the ground, a rash kick, and even rape.
Following the violent episode, there is calm, or a sense of remorse by the abuser, this is known as the honeymoon stage: “I’m sorry! I’ll never hit you again,” or “I just get so angry sometimes and I can’t control it!” or “You make me so mad at times. If you would just do what you’re told, I wouldn’t have to hit you!” and even, “I love you so much and you’re the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen; I didn’t mean to hurt you!”
On average, the abused person will allow the cycle to continue roughly seven times before he or she decides to leave.
It’s important to remember that it is NOT your fault. No one deserves to be abused, but we want you to know that you are not alone. Know the cycle so you can #breaktheCYCLE.